By Dr. Karyn Gordon
(1) Parents Are Exhausted
Parents will often get exhausted, angry and resentful toward their kids saying comments such as "Look at all that I do for you - can you not just do A, B, C?
(2) Kids / Teens Irritated
Kids / teens often get highly irritated at their parents for being overly involved and often tell their parents to 'back off', which causes massive conflict.
(3) Kid / Teen Attitude of Entitlement
When parents over-function and do too much - this tends to breed an "attitude of entitlement' in kids / teens with them saying comments like "It's your fault I'm late, you didn't wake me up" as they blame their choices on their parents.
(4) Kids / Teens Resist Helping Out
If parents ask their kids / teens to do a little job, often they will show big signs of resistance and seldom show signs of gratitude.
(5) False Self-Esteem
If parents do too much, it often builds 'false self-esteem' in their kids which is a cover up for low self-esteem. One of the best ways for children to build genuine self esteem is to have responsibilities so if parents are doing everything – this opportunity is lost!